I like my personality but i am realistic – i know that guys care a lot about looks and there have been times in my life where i have let myself go (eaten what i want and not exercise) and at those times i get barely any male attention. Yes that hurt to be overlooked due to my appearance. Well now i look after myself really well – no junk food only healthy and exercise, skincare. Yes i also suffer from depression and see a psychologist.
I do like my personality and i have never thought my personality was the issue when it comes to guys. Im not happy with how i look it upsets me and there are things i really want to change and am saving up for. I have problems with food where i feel super guilty eating junk food and sometimes i do stupid stuff like live on diet coke for two days and do a lot of exercise to tone up (Im already 51kg, 5″6). I just dont think my looks are good enough and i do think some guys would not want me because they dont think im pretty enough – thats because im being realistic.
I think i am funny, really smart, nice, caring and even sexy (i think you can be sensual without being pretty). I think im a good friend, good sister and i am a good girlfriend when i date. But i just do not think im pretty enough.
Does this mean i dont love myself just because im really hard on myself about my looks?
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Contradictory to what I usually advise, I recommend you go and find a life coach or look towards self help.
Psychologists don’t always give you the best answer. Sometimes it takes more than qualifications and 12 years of training to help someone lol. Sometimes deviating from professionalism can help (but not always). There is also a reason why such practises have been implemented in academics as well as continually in business organisations. Some do work, but some do not. I recommend you suss these out carefully for yourself. Hopefully, they would give you the answer you are looking for.
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Your problem is that you care too much about what other people think about you,you are unique and special there never will be another you.Your unique.Nobody has the right to say otherwise ,what makes them better than you? nothing does.Now stop judging by looks.Stop judging yourself and dont look for the approval of others,you dont need peoples aprroval they are no better than you
Being realistic is a unique personality trait that people ( who look for it ) can value. I don’t feel you need to feel love for your body at all. The real “us” is something you can’t see on the outside.
the way you have described yrself is ok and fine
increase yr self confidence
look for counseling from your parents, uncles aunts
looks are not everything for a person,
I need to know your date, gender and place of birth in order to give you answer.
well i doned think yur a purdy one uh yep uh huh uhuh just come to hawaii i’ll drop the hill billy act an we can go to the movies sometime. laters beautiful.
Hmm, you sound like one of my best friends (i wont say her name).
Looks arent everything in life. I mean, there are some advantages in being pretty, but look at it this way – with a nicer personality rather than nicer looks, what kind of guy would you attract? A nice guy, who will love you just the way you are.
How about those girls who are pretty and have big boobs and look ‘perfect’ ect, what kind of guys do they usually attract? The pervert selfish *** hole guys who only care about one thing..which i dont even need to say coz you probably know what i mean.
You need to accept yourself the way you are! Instead of focusing on the things you don’t like, focus on the things you DO like.
Don’t think about what guys and what other people are thinking when they look at you. Don’t change your appearance coz of guys. This is YOUR life, and YOU have to be happy with it.
Look to your own approval, not anyone elses.
Heyy happen to stop by your q darling
its actually really good when yu get use to it(never give up for yur health&appearance)
Im 15 and i find myself a bit like u although im not very big¬ that pretty not that ugly.
Okayy so when i was 14 i stopped all fizzy drinks because i use to drink it all the time.
Try actually drinking warm water for a whole week(at first it may taste wel ,tasteless&less sweet)
but in a few weeks time when you try diet coke it will taste horrible because i remembered how water taste like(refreshing).
Now try exercising daily
And FYI your gorgeous just the way you are
No, you sound realistic (and I have no way of really knowing what you look like, just taking your word for it). Please realize that there are people who can look beyond the surface or who know looks aren’t everything. Try to stay healthy (if you love yourself it will show up in how you treat your body, not whether you think you are pretty) and active. Do keep seeing a psychologist. Good luck!
Only you can answer that question. But, don’t be so hard on yourself. Prettiness isn’t everything. I know that must sound shocking coming from a guy, but it’s the truth.
However…keep taking care of yourself. Exercise, eat right, take care of your skin, get you nails done etc. Do what you can to enhance what you have, and don’t worry about what you don’t have.
Honestly…most guys are turned off by girls that have that ‘i’m pretty and I know it’ aura…they seem stuck up, and it actually detracts from their prettiness.
You don’t have to look like a fashion model superstar to love yourself or be loved…you just have to be a good person.
MANy people I know who r in a relationship.. married don’t care about looks,,,, STOp Worrying kay =) BUT they do know how to take good care of themselves.. like jogging once in a while, working out, steadily, & the one man will come one day okay.,,,, that’s what ALL the people ina relationship has told me & i haven’t given up hope looking for the right girl
Be youself, i’ve been being myself & i’ve seen BIG changes =p, taking things slow with girls and what not,
I’m a guy & from the heart I will Love my girl for her, her own one of a kind unique smile & sparks* and what not
“Don’t wait, don’t be upset” -Chris Q.T., quoted by me “…relax your fabolous heart baby girl…take the cruise real slow & let it go”(dedicated to Aimee a.k.a. Naru-Chan)
No i don’t think its a case of not loving yourself because of it. I will quote you.
“I think i am funny, really smart, nice, caring and even sexy (i think you can be sensual without being pretty). I think im a good friend, good sister and i am a good girlfriend when i date. But i just do not think im pretty enough.”
The simple fact is pretty isn’t really important when you put it against those attributes and if there are men who can’t see past the looks and enjoy all those other qualities then quite frankly they aren’t good enough for you not the other way round.
Its good that you see a psychologist to help with your depression i’ve been there and it sucks and i think you are doing just fine, you do love yourself simply because you can recognise all your good qualities, try not to worry about your looks because you will find someone eventually that will fall for you because you are you and have all those great qualities and when that happens it won’t even cross your mind again.
I wish you the best of luck
Kind Regards
Phil